Does your husband/partner hit you?
Does he frequently criticize you or humiliate you in public?
Do you ever feel like your life or the life of your children is in danger?
You may be involved in a domestic violence relationship. If you would like to talk about what is going on in your relationship, please call us at # 099 88 78 08
Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
Are the following qualities you would attribute to your husband or partner:
- Punches, pushes, beats, slaps, cuts or burns you
- Constantly criticizes or shames you
- Humiliates you in public
- Threatens to kill you and/or your children
- Uses or threatens to use a weapon against you
- Strangles you
- Shows extreme jealousy and/or obsessive behaviors
- Controls most or all of your daily activities (what you do, when you do it)
- Forces you to have sex
- Prevents you from seeing friends or family
- Owns or has access to weapons (e.g. guns, knives, etc.)
- His violence is increasing in severity and/or frequency
- Abuses alcohol and/or other drugs
- Was/Is violent with you during pregnancy
- Threatens or attempts to commit suicide
- Threatens to harm you and your children
- Follows you, spies on you, and/or leaves threatening messages
- Abuses animals
*Based on the research of Jacquelyn Campbell Ph.D., R.N., F.A.A.N. and the Danger Assessment tool.
If you are afraid for your life please call our anonymous and confidential hotline. You can ask questions, plan ways to stay safe or get to a shelter. The confidential hotline number is: 099 88 78 08
If you want to leave the relationship,
- Do not tell your partner that you’re thinking of leaving.
- Plan the safest time and route to go.
- When you do leave, take your children with you.
- Have enough money with you for a bus, train or taxi.
- Pack an overnight bag (but if you aren’t leaving immediately keep it somewhere outside of the house, such as in the trunk of your car, at a friend’s house).
- Gather all important documents such as passports, birth certificates, marriage license, credit card or checkbook in one place so you can grab them in a hurry.
- Call the hotline (099 88 78 08) and we can help you plan or assist your escape.
If you are still in the relationship, here are some things you can do to keep yourself safe:
- Think about what you will say to your partner if he\she becomes violent. Think about what has worked in the past.
- Document when your partner tends to get violent and keep it in a secret place – maybe you can notice a pattern or specific triggers and prepare yourself.
- If he gets violent, avoid rooms with no exits like the bathroom and rooms with weapons like the kitchen.
- Make a list of safe people to contact. Think of a safe place to go if he is violent like a friend or family’s house.
- Establish a code word or sign so that family, friends, neighbors, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
- Keep enough money with you at all times for a bus, train or taxi.
- Keep an overnight bag packed somewhere outside of the house, such as in the trunk of your car, at a friend’s house.
- Keep all important documents such as passports, birth certificates, marriage license, credit card or checkbook in one place so that you can grab it if you need to leave suddenly.
- Teach your children where to go in case of an episode (a locked room or a neighbor’s house).
Remember, you have the right to live without fear and violence.
Women’s Support Center
Confidential Hotline: 099 88 78 08